Pick up any book on relationships and you can bet it will have a section on online dating, whether it was written by Dr. Phil or the neighbour next door. This chapter on online dating is usually included to give people another avenue to pursue if they're failing to get a date the old fashioned way.
If these so-called relationship guru's had actually tried to find Mr. Right online, they would have realized what a bad idea it was and never suggested it in the first place. Just because everyone else out there is doing it, doesn't make it a good idea.
This article is based on my experiences in the online dating world, experiences that stretch out I am terrible at online hookup several years. I'm not suggesting that it's impossible to find someone online.
Lightning has been known to strike. I just happen to believe that online dating has been over-hyped and is probably one of the worst places to find someone to have a relationship with. This is by far the biggest pitfall of online dating. Especially if you're interacting with men within a mile radius or more of where you live.
It makes no difference what category you put your profile, you could put it in "frigid prudes from hell" and men will still assume you must want to hook up. I remember meeting a guy I had chatted with online for several days prior and he told me half-way through our coffee date that he was looking forward to spending the night with me.
He kindly informed me that he would not be returning to his apartment that night, but would be having a sleepover at my place instead. Needless to say, he did not get his wish.
Seems that there are a lot of men out there that assume the date is just I am terrible at online hookup to get through to get to the sex after. This can happen on any date, regardless if you met online or not. However, this happened to me so often that I began suspecting that meeting a guy online sent the subliminal message that I was looking for sex even though it was never discussed and my profile was in the serious relationship category. I suspect that the actual number of people using online dating sites that are really looking for a relationship instead of a good time is fairly small.
Let's face it, people can say anything they want about themselves online.
They're a brain surgeon, a model, or even a pro-hockey player that one was rather comical. Studies have already proven that both men and women lie about different things on their profile. Women tend to lie about their weight and men tend to lie about their height and salary. Men have complained to me time and time again that when they finally met a woman they had been chatting with online, she turned out to be at least 50 lbs heavier than she stated on her profile.
Sadly, it's not the weight that bothers I am terrible at online hookup guy so much as the lying about it! Some people don't even use their own pictures!
What a fantastic way to start a relationship!! Nothing builds love and trust like lying. People lie about whether they're even single, if they have kids, their job, their looks, you name it. But how are you supposed to know if they're the real deal?
It's different when you know them from work or your friends.
You can always do a little investigating about whether they are in fact single, what they do for a living and so on. That's very hard to do online.
You have no choice but take their word for it, at least for the time being. I have a girlfriend that met a guy online and then proceeded to try and have a long-distance relationship with him. It never worked out.
I also tried the same thing, many years ago and that didn't work out any better. The truth of the matter is, it doesn't work out for too many other people either.